The author of the essay, Charlotte Shane, builds on arguments made by Camille Paglia in 1991 and Germaine Greer in 2006 that rape discourse is not in opposition to the patriarchy, but operating within it. (I’m sympathetic to the idea that there is no escape from oppressive systems.) Shane quotes Greer: “The only weapon that counts in rape is the penis, which is conceptualised as devastating…The notion of rape is the direct expression of male phallocentricity, which women should know better than to accept.”
The dominant narrative of rape does not reflect Shane’s individual experience and is harmful to her emotional health. She tries to avoid suggesting that other women who have been raped (compare: “rape victims”) should “suck it up”, but you should decide for yourself if she’s successful.
Shane doesn’t really offer a recommendation for how rape should be handled differently except to say “rape is an individual’s experience, not a collective one”. This is basically a standard 3rd-wave/postmodern perspective: the abstraction and reduction of patriarchal modernism is the problem, so don’t look for a universal solution.